Do men play a role in the decision making process of a pregnancy?

Please respond to the prompt in a fully developed paragraph that clearly defines the position you take on this very sensitive issue.  Then, please respond to two others in your class.

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38 thoughts on “Do men play a role in the decision making process of a pregnancy?

  1. Mai Davis

    I do not think that men should have a role in the decision of an abortion. The men are not the ones who have to carry the baby inside them and who form the close bond with the baby right away. They will never know what it is like to carry another life inside of them so for them to tell the girl that she should abort the baby is not okay. I believe that is is fully the woman’s choice. The man can give his opinion of what he wants her to do, but ultimately, it is the woman’s choice.

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    1. Marissa Oxendine

      I agree with this, but I also believe that if a woman wants to abort the baby, the man should not be able to make her keep it for the same reasons. The woman is the one who has to carry and house the child for nine months.

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    2. ktaylorap

      I agree, but I think that if the man plans to care for the woman and be a part of the baby’s life, whether or not they keep it, then his opinion should be considered more heavily.

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    3. Mikayla Harper

      I totally agree with your comment. I believe that if a woman wants to keep her baby that she has formed a bond with, the man should not take that away from her. I believe that a woman is independent enough to make the decision to raise a baby. The father can choose to be there or choose to leave if he does not like her decision. I do believe, however, that there are many men who would choose to do the right thing in this process.

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  2. madelynntabels

    I think that men play a very important role in decision making process of a pregnancy. I fully understand that it is the woman’s body and that people feel that because of this, the woman should get the final say. I, however, believe that the man should have a say in whether or not the woman goes through with the pregnancy. It is also his child and the woman should not be able to take that away from him, especially if he is willing to take care of the child on his own. There are circumstances where the woman does not have to listen to the man’s opinion during pregnancy, but i do not think that the woman should be able to abort a child if the man truly wants to keep it.

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  3. Marissa Oxendine

    I have, perhaps, a very controversial opinion on the decision making process of an abortion. I understand completely the stance of people who say men should have an equal right in the decision making process. I am a huge proponent of equal rights, as many know. However, there is a part of me that cannot completely agree with them. Yes, men play an equal role in the making of a baby, but they do not go through the actual process of carrying and delivering a child. I think that the decision making process and the role men play is completely dependent on the situation. When a couple is married and they become pregnant, the decision , I believe, should be shared. That is completely based on my idea of marriage, though. If a woman becomes pregnant, but is not ready for the child, I believe that men should not be able to force her into going through nine months of an unwanted pregnancy plus the distress of a delivery. The pregnancy and the delivery process is extremely hard, and it puts so much stress on a woman’s body. On a different note, if a man does not want the baby but the woman chooses to keep the baby, I do not believe that she should be able to rely on the man for support. My opinion is that men should be involved in the decision making process, but the decision is ultimately the woman’s choice.

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    1. sabrinamartinez18

      I agree with you because your response talked about the different types of relationships and what the options for those relationships would be.

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    2. tylerwesmore

      Biologically, women will always be the carriers for children. There is no comprise available here. However, if the legitimacy of male involvement in a parental republic is considered void due to the lack of male involvement in child development past conception then the derived conclusion must be that men have no place in parenting. For if men forfeit any responsibility in the prenatal stages of a child’s life, then how can men ever gain that responsibility postnatally. Regardless of birth, that being is a man’s greatest creation. To believe that men have no legitimate role in such a decision would insinuate that men are lesser to their wives in the role of parenting. A situation cannot exist in which two beings are wholly accountable to the well-being of a child and can equally wield authority over that child if one parent has greater authority and executive decision making. In this way, the forfeiting of the man’s say in the discussion of abortion also forfeits any respectability given to him by his partner, creating a situation that is entirely female-centric in construction and practice. No equality in a relationship can form when one has such dominating presence over the other in such a fundamentally important way.

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  4. erinfskinner

    In the decision making process of going through with pregnancy or having an abortion, men should be involved. They should be aware that the woman is pregnant and help talk through the discussion. After all, it is his baby too. Having said this, I also believe that, ultimately, the woman should have the final say in having an abortion. It is her body that is going through physical changes. It is her who has to endure the pain of childbirth. It is her dealing with all the hormones messing with her head. She is greatly affected physically and emotionally. So, it her decision, because it is her body. I remain pro-choice, but the man should be aware.

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    1. Marissa Oxendine

      I agree with this fully. Men have the right to be in the conversation, but they do not experience the actual pregnancy. I think that out of respect, the woman should involve the man in the decision making process, but it is not his ultimate choice.

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    2. Mai Davis

      I agree with Erin’s statement about the man’s choice in an abortion. I too think that the men should be aware that his significant other is pregnant, but the woman is the person who makes the final decision.

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  5. mikaylaharper

    I do believe that men should have a role in the decision making process of a pregnancy to an extent. If a man and a woman do get put into that situation unexpectedly, I believe that both parties should be able to express their opinions openly. I do think the man should be able to have an opinion on the situation. But, I think it is ultimately the woman’s choice. I think the man has the right to influence the woman and help her come to a decision. I do not think that a man should be left out of the decision making process, but I think the ultimate deciding factor should be the right of the woman. It is her body that will be changing and growing. Once the decision is made, that is when the man should make the choice of whether to be responsible and respect the decision or to leave.

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    1. drennanm

      I agree with this completely that in certain situations the man should have a choice, but that it is ultimately the woman’s decision. However, I think that the man should have a larger input

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    2. jennatoms

      If a man does not have any influence in the women’s decision, what’s the point of allowing him to voice his opinion? It’s not the fault of men that women were designed to carry children. Both individuals made the decision of intimacy and therefore, they should both have a say in the consequences.

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  6. Caleb Bryant

    I do think that mean play a role in the decision making process of pregnancy. When a man and a woman become married they become a team. Within this team, the two people face everything that life throws at them no matter how tough. I believe that they have to work on important life decisions together in order to continue in a happy, healthy life and marriage. If one person in the marriage makes an important decision without the other, there could be conflict and miscommunication. Both of these people are entitled to the same amount of rights in the marriage. Women have to keep in mind that the decisions they make with their pregnancy will have an effect on their partner. The same goes for the man in the relationship. They have to have enough respect and willingness to go along with their partner. The man also has got to put forth an effort in saying what he is thinking or feeling about an important life decision.

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  7. Charles Golden

    Yes, I believe men should and do get a say in the decision of having a child. If a man has no money, no job, and the rest of his life before him he should not be stuck paying for and raising a child he does not want. Granted, men have the “mojo” that allows a woman to become pregnant. But, the argument that, “If you don’t want kids you should’ve used protection, now you have to pay,” is invalid because it was a mutual agreement to have unprotected intercourse. I don’t believe abortion is the best option. If a pregnant woman wants to keep a baby, good on her, nobody should be forced into an abortion or giving a baby up for adoption. But, if the father doesn’t want or have the means to raise said child he should not be forced to pay for the single-minded decision of the mother to keep the child.

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  8. ktaylorap

    In the decision making process of a pregnancy, I believe men should be aware of the decisions made concerning a baby, but only get a say if the woman allows it. In the end, it is up to the woman to make the decision. To elaborate, in most situations a woman should not have to consider the man’s choice. The woman is responsible for carrying the baby and taking care of herself. Some men are not in a committed relationship with the woman when she becomes pregnant. If the man decides to leave immediately or not be a large part of the child’s life, the woman has full responsibility of caring for the child. Therefore, it should be the woman’s decision keep the baby or not. If a woman was raped by a stranger or even their boyfriend or partner, the man should not have a say because the woman was forced into the action, and the baby was seen as “forced” upon them as well. If a man and a woman are in a committed relationship, and plan to be together after either the baby is born or taken, the woman will be much more likely to consider the man’s opinion in the situation. Also, in this particular situation, I think the man should have some sort of say in the decision making process because the man plans to be a significant part of the baby’s life and care for the mother and the child. However, it is still the woman’s ultimate decision and in most cases should be the only decision.

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    1. MorganBrown6

      I like your use of examples! I definitely agree with what your opinion as well. I believe that men should only play a role if they are still involved with the woman and plan to be a part of the child’s life. Even then, I think the woman should consider the man’s opinions while still considering her own opinions to a higher extent. Your comment did a great job at expressing your opinions and I fully agree with you!

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  9. drennanm

    I think that men should have a decision regarding the abortion of their child. I think it is a decision that the mother and father should make together, since it is affecting both of them. The baby is a product of both the man and the woman, so the decision should be made together. The woman is the one that will be carrying the child, but it is also the mans child. It will be harder to make the decision because there are two people involved rather than one, but I believe that the decison would be better if the two were involved. The decision affects both the man and the woman. It affects both their future individually and their futures together.

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  10. sabrinamartinez18

    I do not believe that men should play a role in a woman’s decision about her pregnancy. The woman has to carry the baby for nine months and they have to take explicit care of the baby after it is born. Women should be able to make this important decision on their own with a man’s support in whatever she decides. The man should not be the one making the decision because he would not be the one to go through an abortion or through childbirth. Most men do not understand what it means to women to become pregnant or what being pregnant means in general. It may sound like an unfair stereotype but it’s true. Men will never understand what it is like to be pregnant or to have an abortion so, therefore, I believe that they should not have a say in a woman’s decision about her pregnancy.

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    1. MorganBrown6

      I agree! Women definitely go through a much larger amount of difficulties during a pregnancy that men will never experience. Whether a women does or does not wish to go through these hardships, I believe she has the right to make that decision for herself. While I think both the man and woman should discuss the matter, I agree that it is ultimately the woman’s decision.

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    2. madelynntabels

      I do not agree with this comment. I believe that if a woman did not want to have children she should have been safer during sex. A woman is not the only one that has to live with the decision of abortion, the man does, too. A man should not be forced to live the rest of his life with that if he does not want to.

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  11. jennatoms

    A man’s opinion should play a role in the decision of whether or not to terminate a pregnancy. Women who oppose this issue make claims defending that “it’s the women’s body” and “women are the ones who are affected.” Still, when a child is born, men are held responsible because it’s their child. Men are expected to care for their child through issues such as paying child support. If a man is expected to be held responsible for a “women’s decision,” their opinion should play a role in the decision making process. Generally, women are stereotyped as being sentimental and opting to keep a pregnancy where as men are stereotyped as the opposite with opposing desires, but lets turn the table. If a women wishes to terminate a pregnancy and the man wishes to keep the child, the man should have the right to his child. Men can not bear children and therefore, are reliant on women for this task. A man could decide he wants to know his child and will take custody of the child once it is born and the women can continue with her life unaffected is she wishes. Yes, women’s bodies are altered by pregnancy and it can be argued that asking a women to go through these bodily changes is unfair. But, both individuals made the decision to have sex; therefore, they have to deal with the consequences.

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    1. tylerwesmore

      It is interesting that the overwhelming majority of women said that men should have little or no say in the decision and that the men were the direct opposite. I do sympathize with your comment far more than any other.

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    2. Mikayla Harper

      I agree with your statement. I do believe that a man should have the right to keep his baby if the woman does not want the responsibility. I like how you said that most people sympathize the woman, but sometimes it is the woman who has those views. When I originally wrote my comment, I was looking at it from the perspective of the man wanting an abortion instead of the woman, which is why I said that the woman should have the choice in that particular situation. So I totally agree when you say to turn the table! I feel like your stance on that part is what I should have went into more detail about on my own comment.

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  12. jakobtoms

    To put my opinion simply, I feel that men should have a say in the decision making process of a pregnancy. I feel that this responsibility, just like all other responsibilities, shouldn’t be neglected or abused. In my opinion, the birth of a child or the lack-there-of greatly affects the father’s life. The Hills Like White Elephants explores the perspective of the father not wanting the child and the woman being on the fence about the decision. What if the roles were reversed? Would the man have any more right to an opinion in the matter? In my opinion, this shouldn’t be questionable. The impact that having a child has on both parent’s lives is enormous. In my opinion, men shouldn’t be demonized for wanting to have or not have a child. Like I said, the issue is too complex to generalize all men into one category. Overall, I feel that men should have a say in the decision making process of a pregnancy. This isn’t to say that men are always right in their ways or their thinking. I acknowledge that the responsibility falls upon both parties and I feel that the significance of the role that men play in pregnancy is dependent upon his behavior and support of his partner.

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  13. tylerwesmore

    Deciding whether or not a father has any decision in the process of abortion is in many ways is a questioning on the validity of fatherhood as a concept. One cannot decide that men have no sway in such a decision while attempting to believe, at the same time, that fathers are in any way important in the life of a child; to do so would be paradoxical. If a father possesses responsibility for a child after birth, then that father must also claim responsibility for the child prenatally. If a father has no claim to the child while unborn, then why would birth somehow conjure up dominion to the child. The role of the father is imperative to the development of the child. Statistically speaking, the factor of the the father being in the life of a child is crucial to lifelong success. Why does this imperative role receive such bastardization? The notion that men have no voice when discussing the fate of their child is abhorrent. If a woman decided to avert responsibility for a child and abort it, the man would have no choice but to let his child die. By denying a man the ability to fight for his child, society strips him of purpose. Being a father is the most important activity a man will likely ever enact. By allowing the woman of the relationship to have complete authority in the decision, society effectively strips men of any role in a family. For if a man cannot claim the ability to protect his offspring, what is he? What responsibility will he ever gain that could replace the responsibility given by fatherhood. Men are not meant to be absolved of responsibility and cannot function coherently under such conditions. By stripping men of their roles as fathers and their responsibilities to their children, men are stripped of their purpose. It is an evil concept.

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    1. erinfskinner

      I agree that men play an important role in the creation of a child, but that does not concretely mean they have a say in putting a woman through nine months of unwanted pregnancy. The father may play a part in intercourse, but how is he physically affected by the pregnancy? Does he go through his body changing? Does he experience all the uncomfortable pains and aches which come along with pregnancy? Does he endure hours upon hours of excruciating labor? And then, after the birth of the child, does he go through the pains of breastfeeding or the other experiences of a new mother? Or, does he suffer from the sometimes permanent damage to the body after birth? No. So, therefore, it is not a paradox. It is perfectly understandable why a woman would not wish to go through this traumatic experience. Secondly, I do not believe a man’s only purpose in life is to reproduce. What about happiness? What about education? What about helping others, such as the poor or those fighting for equal rights? A man’s purpose is not to be just a father but to be a good human being, as with anyone, not only men. Not everyone has to have children. The earth is already overpopulated. So to say a man must have children is narrow-minded and ignorant of the world’s events. Furthermore, to claim abortion is evil is insensitive and exaggerated.

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    2. Golden

      You took the conversation a whole new way i didn’t even think of when I wrote my comment, and I agree with you whole-heartedly.

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  14. MorganBrown6

    I believe men should play a minor role in the decision making process. In my opinion, if the father is still in the picture, both the man and woman should discuss the decision together and decide what is best for both of them. A child can affect a man’s life in significant ways. The man is usually expected to help the mother provide and care for their family by either staying with the family or paying child support, assuming the mother keeps the baby. Having a child is a significant life-changing event for both parties involved. For this reason, I believe the man should play some role in the decision making process. However, I think the woman should have the most influence in the decision because she is the one who will be carrying the baby and giving birth to it. The woman has a majority of the responsibility when she has a child because a baby takes a significant toll on the woman’s health and life. Woman experience much more affects and responsibility as a result of having a baby. The woman could also experience a great amount of emotional distress if she decides to abort the baby. For these reasons, I think the woman should have the most influence in the decision making process. Overall, I believe the man should have a role in the decision making process; although, I strongly believe the woman should make her own decision while still considering the man’s opinions.

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    1. sabrinamartinez18

      I agree with your assessment because I believe that women should make the final decision regarding their pregnancy.

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